Introduction: The Crisis of Our Shared Destiny
Part I. The Conversation Begins
2. What We Say, Mean, and Do
Letters from Don and Robin
3. He Say/She Say: Who's to Blame
Part 2. Mr. And Mrs. Butta Worth
6. Will Mr. Right Please Stand Up?
8. Checking Baggage: The Lightness of Being
9. Status vs. Potential: Looking at the Obamas
Part 3. Trying Not to Sleep in the Bed You Made
11. Eros vs. Sex/Lust vs. Love
Sexual Experimentation and Compatibility
12. Cheating: Reminder Games
14. Going, Going, Gone: Crossing the Color Line
Part 4. Pulling Up the Roots
17. Anger, Forgiveness, and Learning to Let Go
Black Men Speak V: Marriage from a Man's Perspective
18. The Conversation Party
The Morning-After Debriefing
Addendum: Conversation Questions